Saving Fatherhood seeks to glorify God by serving victims of broken families. We help Father's and families apply Biblical principles to family challenges including but not limited to separation, divorce, parental alienation and any situation caused by, made worse by, or could be prevented by avoiding family court. To make this goal a reality we promote our Podcast, Private Counseling / Discipleship and Group Bible Study for Divorced and Alienated Dads. Additionally we participate in local and national political groups that seek to prevent family court tragedies thru legislation. We raise money for our efforts thru donations, t-shirt sales and various other fundraising including advertising.
Frequently asked questions
Q - Why not Saving Family? What about Moms? A - By saving fatherhood we save moms, kids, and families. There is no mother without a father and there is no father without a mother.
Q - What about families that do not believe in God? A - God believes in you and he cares about your family. We hope that the brokenness you have suffered trying to care for your family without Jesus will point you to your need for a savior. We want to help you find hope for your broken family with God’s intervention. If you fill out this contact form we will call you to discuss how we can help.
Q - When is the Podcast broadcast? A - The Podcast is pre-recorded and in 2021 this will happen weekly. You can have it automatically downloaded to your phone by using a “pod catcher” like Apple podcasts, Stitcher or Google podcasts.
Q - Do you answer questions on the podcast? A – The show is not live but we can answer questions directly or on the show if you prefer. If you have a question for a past guest of the show, we can facilitate that as well.
Q - How do I become a guest on the show? A - Fill out the Pre-Interview questionnaire by following this link.
Q – How do you financially support the show and support for families? A – The show is self-funded by volunteers who donate their own time talent and treasure. We also sell t-shirts to try and offset expenses and we never charge anyone for counseling.
Q – What sort of counseling or help do you provide for broken families? A – We pair up potential disciples who need counseling for various needs with people who can help. If you need help or want to help others we want
Q – If I need help trying to keep my family together who do I call?
A – We have a Biblical Counseling intake form that you should fill out.
Fatherlessness is an epidemic hurting moms, kids, grandparents and the society as a whole. According the the latest US census, 24 million children in America now live in a home in which the biological father is missing. This is equates to 1/3 of all children. There are many core issues adding to the problem. "No-Fault" divorce encourages divorce, makes light of marriage and eliminates accountability within God's covenantal design. Discussing God's design for marriage is not even an option in most schools. Parental alienation is when a child has been manipulated into showing unwarranted fear or hostility towards a parent or other family member. Children are convinced to hate half of themselves by the other half of themselves. This destroys children from the inside and it is a severe form of child abuse. Parental alienation is not formerly recognized by the courts because of their reliance on psychology which is managed by the highly political APA (American Psychological Association). Because of the move towards secularism psychology has replaced roles formerly occupied in society by the church. Psychology has yet to decide how to handle many of these roles and sadly the church continues to abdicate its former leadership position. The free exercise of religion has been limited to what you believe instead of how you live. The contracts clause of the constitution does not cover marriage. Family courts allow one parent to gain monopolistic control of children. Family law regularly violates major articles of the Bill of Rights. You can not get a jury of your peers in the family court of most states.
Title IV and Child Protective Services (CPS) take children from parents without a warrant. There are unintended consequences and the fall out from these abuses. This leads to what is called "Child Trafficking". The list goes on and on.
We want to keep the main thing the main thing but each guest we have on the show is going to have a different story to tell. In all things we want to seek God's will for these tragedies. Knowing he is sovereign he calls to us to act. How should we respond. Where is the Gospel in these stories? How does it point to our need for a savior?
I want to thank Internationally known artist, writer, former nurse, Toastmasters-trained speaker, corporate training manager, life coach, Christian leader, and alienated mom, Monica Giglio for the Saving Fatherhood Logo. Monica is the founder of SPEAKW. SPEAKW is a Saving Fatherhood partner. The acronym stands for Stop Emotional Abuse of Kids Worldwide. Click here to contact Monica about her artwork, speaking series or parental alienation work.
Solutions
Hello, and welcome to Saving Fatherhood. If you are here because you are a Mom or Dad in a broken family, I am very sorry and very glad at the same time. I am sorry that you are suffering. I am sorry that your family is hurting. I have experienced some of the same things you are going thru, and my deepest desire is for you to experience the hope that I have experienced. You can, with patience and prayer see your family come back together under God’s care. Of course, that is why I am glad that you are here because God has a plan to bring restoration to you and your family. There is but one hope in this world and His name is Jesus Christ. If you are not a Christian hold on. Please do not think the healing power of Jesus Christ is not for you. Let me tell you that Jesus Christ loves you and your entire family regardless of your religious background. Please read what God’s word says in John 3:16-17. It says, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.”
Salvation points to our need for a savior because our personal sins are so great that we can not do anything of value to pay the debt created by our transgressions. If you are suffering because your family has experienced trauma it does not matter if you perceive the fault to be yours or your spouses. If you blame an external source or someone tells you to blame an external source the problem is not unique to you. The entire world is broken. While God created the world good, his word teaches us that everything in creation is broken and longs for the day that healing will take place.
Romans 8:22 says, “For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth until now.” Is it any wonder that we experienced pain and suffering if the entire world has been suffering with pains similar to those in childbirth?
Christians and non-Christians alike suffer thru various hardships in this world because of sin. If we say the world is groaning because of sin, you may think this is an existential problem only. We suffer because we sin. Even when we know what to do because God wrote that on our hearts we rebel because of our desires. The world would tell us to follow our desires and to dismiss anyone who gets in our way as a “toxic relationship” but God’s word says something radically different. In the book of James starting in Chapter 4 it says, “4 What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? 2 You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask.”
There are many important points in James 4:1-2. I want to highlight two here. First, our problems come from within. While there are many good desires, it is not the desire itself that causes our problems. Its how we go about seeking to fulfil those desires. Its our unwillingness to be patient or go without for the sake of others that we are warned against. When we are disappointed the world says we should go fight and quarrel to get what we want. Why? Because the world says you deserve it.
